Coincidence or fate?


First post of October comes a week into this beautiful month because of exuberant piles of college work…so many apologies for this late post! It’s nearly been 5 five weeks since term started (THANKFULLY MY LAST YEAR AT THIS PRETTY PLACE) and the amount of work I have is creating mounds upon mounds- from personal statements, to job applications to assignments I am slowly but surely beginning to see a light haha. But as each day goes by its getting closer and closer until I will hopefully be off to uni to study what I love the most, so I’m extremely excited and using this as my main motivation to plough through! Today has been a pretty weird day; there have been so many occasions which have conveyed the same message- is it coincidence or fate? I don’t believe in coincidences, some things are far too strange and strong to be coincidences. It has become so clear that once we make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. Coincidence or not, we are capable of achieving our own destiny. Life -just like my current ‘to do list’, is filled with on-going missions, but most of all luck. It’s like getting dealt a good hand, or simply by being in the right place at the right time. Some people get luck handed to them, a second chance, a save. It can happen heroically, or by simple coincidence, but there are those who don’t get luck handed to them on a shiny platter, who purely end up in the wrong place at the wrong time, who don’t get saved. No one can save us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path alone. Either way -coincidence or fate- I believe we are where we are meant to be, some things are just destined to be and one thing for sure is that there is so much about fate that we cannot control, but other things do fall under this jurisdiction. We can decide how we spend our time we get provided with on this Earth, who we interact with, who we share our lives and money and energy with. We can select what we can read and eat and study. We can choose how we regard unfortunate circumstances in life-whether we see them as curses or opportunities. We can choose the words we speak and the tone of voice in which we speak to others. But most of all, we can choose our thoughts. We can choose to fill our minds with buoyant, optimistic and utopian thoughts. Or, we can elect a vivacity of pessimism and gloom. It is our choice. YOU choose.

You never know what’s around the corner (both literally and metaphorically). It could be everything. Or it could be nothing. You keep putting one foot in front of the other, and then one day you look back and you’ve climbed a mountain. Do you really think the man on top of the mountain fell there? Of course he didn’t. He spent many of days surviving the uphill climb and torturous journey of endurance to reach the summit of that mountain, he put his mind to achieve this mission, and with his feet fixed securely on the Earth’s paramounting peak, he was able to take a deep breath, admire the view and whisper to himself; “I made it”.

I think, what I am trying to say is that, in the light of tomorrow as a new corner, we can always begin again. In a matter of twenty-four hours, what we know as our life could be taken away from us or dramatically changed within seconds. Twelve hours ago, you left the house as normal- presuming that you will return home again at 5:30PM from a demanding day at work. But what if this presumption didn’t come true? What if there is something waiting just around the corner which had a fatal impact; be it good or bad, on your life and soul? All your dreams, hopes and wishes gone, all in a split second. Without focusing on the “what if’s” too strongly, my point here is that we have no control of the inevitable. Whether it is simply being in the wrong place at the wrong time or whether fate has decided your destiny, life is undoubtedly going to throw us off the rails, we will no doubt be stopped dead by its cataclysmic calamities. Yet it is how we respond to these which makes us who we are.

If you have dreams and ambitions eagerly waiting to be put into practice, like a ticking time bomb in the back of your mind, but the fear of failure outweighs the faith for success, or the time it will take to fulfill that dream, or the dismay of what people will say and how they will respond causes you to prolong taking action, then think carefully. Think very carefully about the day which lies in front of you, in your grasp. The next twenty-four hours are crucial. If you never returned home tonight, still with all these uncompleted hopes and goals, how would you feel? Disappointed in yourself that you never took action? Overwrought that you never travelled to all the astonishing and spine-tingling places on your bucket list? Entering your grave with oceans left unswam in, rainforests left unexplored, skies left unsoared and sunsets unseen? But more than all, dreams left unachieved and wishes destroyed? The longer you put off your dreams and procrastinate your intentions this is what will happen. Slowly but surely, as each day goes by, you are one step closer to your death bed.

If you were climbing Mount Everest, only kilometers from reaching you destination and you came across a blocked track, an obstacle in your way, an obstruction blocking your vision of disembarking the top, what would you do? Is this simply fate or coincidence? Would you give in to life’s hindrance (whether it be coincidence or simply fate in your own two eyes) and begin the trek back down the mountain having not achieved what you set out to accomplish? Or would you find another way of reaching the summit- no matter how you get there or how long it takes you, would you find your way around this impediment and hurdle to reach your haven?

Each day you walk this Earth, each morning you wake to the sunlight streaming through your curtains, each night you lie in bed and drift off to sleep, are moments, minutes, seconds you will not retain. Time left uncherished, words unspoken and voices unheard. No man can fulfill your dreams for you, only YOU hold that power, which is another topic altogether.

Coincidence or fate, life is undoubtedly unfolding as it should; as for neutrons are just a tad heavier than protons. If it were the other way around, atoms couldn’t exist, because all the protons in the universe would have decayed into neutrons shortly after the big bang. No protons, then no atomic nucleus’s and no atoms. No atoms, no chemistry, no life. Like Baby Bear’s porridge in the story of Goldilocks, the universe seems to be just right for life. What person that wandered in and out of your life, whatever road block impeded your vision of success, your dreams of achievement was there for some purpose, even if they caused you harm. Sometimes, it doesn’t make sense in the short periods of time we get with people, or the outcomes from their choices or the stonewalls life creates for us to eradicate. However, if you keep faith and hold your hope in the realms of your palms, you will see the big picture in the hereafter. Nothing is too small to be a mistake.

Life is too precious, too inestimable, too exquisite for us to waste our dreams and notions on coincidences or fate, as long as there is hope, anything and everything you adhere to achieve is possible- there is always a way. If you aren’t happy with your job, the people around you, your attitude, or any other aspect of your life, then do something about it, because no one else can save you, just find whatever makes you happy and don’t let it out of your sight.

Peace and love,

Grace x

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